Comparing yourself to someone else is one of the easiest, and most insidious, forms of self-judgement. As the platitude goes, “The grass is always greener on the other side.” But I once heard an addendum to that expression that I think makes it far more meaningful: “the grass is always greener because you are peeing on YOUR side.” Meaning, your side looks brown because instead of taking care of it and tending to it, which would make it nice and green, you are taking it for granted (peeing on it!)
My husband and I have a shorthand for remembering this important idea. Anytime we lapse into a “wouldn’t it be nice if XXX was different about our lives” the other will say “stop peeing on our side!” It’s one of the best things about having a partner or friend who is on the same page as you. He or she can keep you honest when you are starting to take all of your many blessings for granted.
Another tip for not taking your wonderful life for granted, because chances are if you are reading this blog you probably have access to a lot of things that most of the world doesn’t, is to say “thank-you” on a regular basis for all of your blessings. My family does this at night before bed. We always “say our thank-you’s” together, and it’s always a very bonding moment for us since my husband and I often thank each other for things that we might not otherwise put into words. It’s a great way to stay connected and not take each other for granted!
Go out and be thankful!